Friday, August 3, 2012

Nerve Make Up is Handed down from Mother to Daughter




My mother suffered from depression and anxiety and her nerves were so bad from it, that she developed a condition where she cried all the time whether she was happy or sad. All emotion made her cry. As a child, this made me angry so I somewhat hard and cruel when ever I was around her when she cried. I realize now that I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was a child. Most adults just said I was “over emotional” In fact, that is what my family said too. But I thought they were all crazy, “I didn’t cry like my mother”. Except for the problems in elementary school with bully's, I had a very stable and enjoyable life. My parents never quarreled and I was well loved and excepted at home.  Then I met and fell in love with a true manic-depressive....a musical and scientific genius... never-the-less very mentally unstable.  I became his yo yo, not knowing how to handle the ups and downs and the put ups and put-downs. He committed suicide when I was 18years old and I felt responsible and angry at the same time, I suppressed the feelings and found someone else, got married and had a family. The stress of marrying into a family with much different priorities and manners than I was ever used to, began to take its toll on me over the years. My immunities were down and I began having anxiety attacks, crying sessions, anger sessions; I didn’t know what was happening or how to handle my emotions.  Then, when I found out that my marriage was not what I thought it was, I had to face some realities, I really lost it. I went into a total depression. The only thing that kept me from giving into suicide is my love for my children and the knowledge that they needed me.  I refused to take antidepressants because I knew they would alter my mind and mess me up worse. I got older and I lost my Mother to diabetes, then I was diagnosed with diabetes that same year, so after I found I had diabetes, My doctors talked me into taking Zoloft, promising little to no side effects. I took Zoloft, at first and it felt like it was working, it was taking my blood sugars down. But then after a while I would forget to take one for a day. Not good…..
The kids would say that I grew fangs and claws. The mood swings got worse and worse. I would get so very irritable and depressed. I felt myself slipping into a terrible mode of fear and anger and depression. I hated the feelings I was having but could not figure out where they were coming from and could not shake the feelings. I finally figured out that it was the Zoloft doing it. I met Bea Lydecker who is an herbalist, and she sent me some herbs called Calmers.  I found that they helped me get through the withdrawals from Zoloft and worked better than Zoloft to get my blood sugars down.  What I didn’t realize then is that I was also eating a better diet….cutting out sugars, fried foods and heavy meats. I was eating more vegetables, fruits and drinking water instead of soda.  I lost 60lbs and was doing better.  As I kept taking the vitamins, and eating right the pain and depression left me.  I was doing much better. But then I moved from Oregon to Utah and started into my old eating habits, quit loosing weight and my sugars started to climb. Pain came back and a couple of weeks ago I went to my doctor and asked for pain medication that will help me sleep and she prescribed Nortriptyline.  I began taking it and it seemed to work, I was sleeping better, however I didn’t take it every night, only a couple of nights, then I started getting overwhelmed and irritable, the crying over everything came back and I would have melt downs. I had one while, my daughters were visiting… No wonder my kid’s think that I am crazy. Finally, after taking it again for 3 nights in a row, I went one night without it.. It was terrible; I couldn’t sleep for the pain and discomfort. The next day I was a wreck, crying and letting everything said hurt me; I would dwell on the negative. I had overwhelming feelings of despair, anger, and sadness. I knew I was acting out and crying and making an idiot of myself but I couldn’t stop and I hated myself for it.  After arguing with my partner and getting offended at everything he said, I went into the bedroom to be alone and found myself wishing I were dead, and actually thinking of ways I could just overdose and go to sleep.
Well here is where I share a secret……. I had not prayed in a few days, I really hadn’t asked God for any help with this.  I hit rock bottom sort of speak and I said a pleading prayer, just asking for help and what I should do. After finishing with Amen, I remember thinking that I just need to sleep. So I took a Nortriptyline and felt it was not working, I thought to take a muscle relaxant to help and I tried to take this pill. I truly felt something keep my hand from reaching my mouth with this pill. I thought, “Well I need to do something” so I tried again and this time I got it into my mouth, only to spit it back out. I don’t know why. But then I decided to look it up and make sure of any reaction between the two drugs, thank goodness for the Internet, (after all if my partner found me dead, it would just put him through hell and I didn’t want to do that to him or the rest of my family), and it’s a good thing that I did, cause I read that the mixture of these two drugs could be fatal and if nothing else cause paralysis.  Upon reading I also found out to my dismay that Nortriptyline was not just for pain, that it is indeed an antidepressant, the same as Prozac, and Zoloft. It said right on the name that it could cause depression and suicidal tendencies. It all came together for me; Now I know way I have always felt so strongly against antidepressants.   You can bet my doctor is going to hear about this and I vow never to take an antidepressant again!  From now on I will find out what nutrients and herbs and food I should eat and not eat in order to improve my mental and physical health.  I beg all my children to do the same.  Please, never give in to taking any antidepressant! And don’t let the doctors foul you, do your homework. You have a good mind, feed it, give it the nutrients it needs and don’t starve yourself. Have faith because faith can move mountains! Pray, stay close to Heavenly Father and the Spirit will give you knowledge. Knowledge is power.

Anthony Gucciardi
NaturalSociety
October 20, 2011
Despite evidence linking popular antidepressants like Prozac to suicide more than 1 in 10 Americans over the age of 12 are now taking antidepressants prescribed by their doctors. In fact, antidepressants are now the most common drug among people aged 18 to 44, according to statistics from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics. Even more notable is the fact that once prescribed, individuals generally keep taking antidepressants for years. Over 60 percent of patients prescribed antidepressants report taking them for more than 2 years, and 14 percent for 10 years or more. This is unfortunate when the drugs meant to help depression actually cause further depression.
Of course these statistics are very troubling given the extreme side effects that go along with antidepressants. You may not be aware of these side effects, as pharmaceutical drug companies have tried their very best to keep them from hitting the media. Shockingly, the makers of Prozac – Eli Lilly & Co., were able to hide the link between Prozac and suicide for 15 years. Through denial and media deception, Eli Lilly & Co. were able to keep Prozac dangers a secret from the general public, choosing profits over deadly consequences.


This is what I have learned so far:

  • Balm, also known as lemon balm, is good for the stomach and digestive organs during stressful situations. It is highly recommended for those who get sick stomach pain when upset or nervous.
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  • Ephedra (ma huang) may be helpful for lethargic depression
  • (caution: Do not use this herb if you suffer from anxiety disorder, glaucoma, heart disease, high blood pressure, or insomnia, or if you are taking a monoamine oxidase (MAO) inhibitor drug.)
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  • Ginger, ginkgo biloba, licorice root, oat straw, peppermint , and Siberian ginsing may be helpful.   (Caution: Do not use licorice on a daily basis for more than seven days in a row. Avoid it completely if you have high blood pressure, or a heart disorder.
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  • Kava kava helps to induce calm and relieve depression.  (Caustion: This herb can cause drowsiness. If this occurs, discontinue use or reduce the dosage.  Do not use kava kava if you are pregnant or nursing, or if you are taking antidepressants.  Long –term use of kava kava may result in dry, scaly skin and yellowish discoloration of the hair and nails.
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  • St John’s wort acts in the same way as monoamine oxidase (MAO) inhibitor drugs do, but less harshly.   (caution: Do not use this herb if you take prescription antidepressants or any medication that interacts with monoamine oxidase (MAO) inhibitor drugs. Use it with caution during pregnancy.
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  • What to eat and not to eat:
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  • Eat a diet that includes plenty of raw fruits and vegetables, with soybeans and soy products, whole grains, seeds, nuts brown rice, millet, and legumes.  A diet to low in complex carbohydrates can cause serotonin depletion which brings on depression.
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  • If you are nervous and wish to become more relaxed, consume more complex carbohydrates. For increased alertness, eat protein meals containing essential fatty acids. Salmon and white fish are good choices.  If you need your spirits lifted, you will benefit from eating foods like turkey and salmon, which are high in tryptophan and protein.
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  • Omit wheat products from the diet. Wheat gluten has been linked to depressive disorders.
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  • Avoid diet sodas and other products containing the artificial sweetener aspartame (NutraSweet, Equal).  This additive can block the formation of serotonin and cause headaches, insomnia, and depression in individuals who are already serotonin-deprived.
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  • Limit our intake of supplements that contain the amino acid phenylalanine. It contains the chemical phenol, which is highly allergenic.  Most depressed people allergic to certain substances. If you take a combination freeform amino acid supplement, look for a product that does not contain phenylalanine, such as that made by Ecological Formulas. Phenylalanine is one of the major components of aspartame.
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  • Avoid foods high in saturated fats; the consumption of meat or fried foods, such as hamburgers and fries, leads to sluggishness, slow thinking, and fatigue. They interfere with blood flow by causing the arteries and small blood vessels to become blocked and the blood cells to become sticky and tend to clump together, resulting in poor circulation, especially to the brain.
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  • Avoid all forms of sugar, including normally “good” sweeteners such as honey, molasses, and fruit juice. The body reacts more quickly to the presence of sugar than it does to the presence of complex carbohydrates.  The increase in energy supplied by the simple carbohydrates (sugars) is quickly followed by fatigue and depression.  Stevia, a concentrated natural sweetener derived from a South American shrub, does not have the same effect on the body as sugar, and does not have the side effects of artificial sugar substitutes.
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  • Avoid alcohol, caffeine, and processed foods.
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  • Investigate the possibility that food allergies are causing or contributing to depression.
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  • Keep your mind active, and get plenty of rest and regular exercise.  Studies have shown that exercise‑ walking, swimming, or any activity that you enjoy – is most important for all types of depression.  Avoid stressful situations.
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  • Learn to recognize, and then to “reroute,” negative thinking patterns.  Keeping a daily log also can help you to recognize distorted thoughts and develop a more positive way of thinking.
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  • If you are suffering from situational depression – depression that occurs in response to an event such as in death of a loved one or the breakup of a relationship – try using Ignatia amara. This is a homeopathic remedy derived from a plant, Saint Ignatius bean, that helps control emotions during periods of extreme grief and hysteria.
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  • If depression is seasonal, light therapy may help. Exposure to the sun and bright light seem to regulate the  body’s production of melatonin, a hormone produced by the pineal gland that is, in part, responsible for preventing the blues. Stay in brightly lit rooms on dark days.  Keep all draperies, curtains, and blinds open and use full spectrum light and spend at least half an hour there each day.
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  • Depression can come from B-vitamin deficiencies or poor eating habits. 
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  • Tyosine is needed for brain function.  This amino acid is directly involved in the production of norepinephrine and dopamine, two vital neurotransmitters that are synthesized in the brain and the adrenal medulla.  A lack of tyrosine can result in a deficiency of norepinephrine in certain sites in the brain, resulting in mood disorders such as depression.  The side effects of stress may be prevented or reversed if this essential amino acid is obtained in the diet or by means of supplements.  Mustard greens, beans, and spinach are good sources of tyrosine.
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  • Some preliminary studies show promise in using dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA)- a hormone naturally produced by the body- in the treatment of depression. In one study, nearly all patients taking DHEA for six weeks significantly improved, and about half of those were no longer considered clinically depressed.
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  • Selenium has been shown to elevate mood and decrease anxiety. These effects were more noticeable in people who had lower levels of selenium in their diets to begin with.
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  • Also regular exorcise and music has powerful effects on moods.
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Well I hope this information helps you achieve a better understanding of yourself and how you can keep yourself healthy and happy in the future.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Fight Emotional Abuse

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Emotional abuse is very real and in many cases the damages are much longer lasting and more devastating than physical abuse. Like me, many do not realize what is happening until it is too late.  It has been a long and hard journey and it is still a battle, but.......

Today, I know I deserve to be loved and acknowledge for who I am. I am amazing! 

 If you say yes to more than 3 of these possible indicators of emotional abuse and neglect, please get some counseling and look to possibly getting out of your current relationship.

 Possible Indicators of Emotional Abuse and Neglect 
• depression 
• withdrawal 
 • low self-esteem
 • severe anxiety 
• fearfulness 
• feelings of shame and guilt 
• frequent crying 
• self-blame/self-depreciation
 • overly passive/compliant 
• social isolation 
• substance abuse 
• delay or refusal of medical treatment 
• discomfort or nervousness 
• avoidance of eye contact 
• suicide attempts or discussion 
• other forms of abuse present or suspected 

What is Emotional Abuse? 
There is no universally accepted definition of emotional abuse. Like other forms of violence in relationships, emotional abuse is based on power and control. The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse: Rejecting - refusing to acknowledge a person's presence, value, or worth; communicating to a person that she or he is useless or inferior; devaluing her/his thoughts and feelings. Degrading - insulting, ridiculing, name calling, and imitating; behavior which diminishes the identity, dignity, and self-worth of the person. Examples: yelling, swearing, publicly humiliating or labeling a person as stupid; mimicking a person's disability; treating a person as if she or he cannot make decisions. Terrorizing - inducing terror or extreme fear in a person; coercing by intimidation; placing or threatening to place a person in an unfit or dangerous environment. Examples: threatening to leave, physically hurt or kill a person, pets or people she/he cares about; threatening to destroy a person's possessions; threatening to have a person deported or put in an institution; stalking. Isolating - physical confinement; restricting normal contact with others; limiting freedom within a person's own environment. Examples: excluding a person from participating in decisions about her or his own life; locking a person in a closet or room alone; refusing a female partner or senior access to her or his own money and financial affairs; withholding contact with grandchildren; depriving a person of mobility aids or transportation. Corrupting/Exploiting - socializing a person into accepting ideas or behavior which oppose legal standards; and using a person for advantage or profit. Denying Emotional Responsiveness - failing to provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner; being detached and uninvolved; interacting only when necessary; ignoring a person's mental health needs. • Emotional abuse accompanies other forms of abuse, but also may occur on its own. • No abuse -- neglect, physical, sexual or financial -- can occur without psychological consequences. Therefore, all abuse contains elements of emotional abuse. • Emotional abuse follows a pattern; it is repeated and sustained. If left unchecked, abuse does not get better over time. It only gets worse. • Like other forms of violence in relationships, those who hold the least power and resources in society, for example, women and children, are most often emotionally abused. • Emotional abuse can severely damage a person's sense of self-worth and perception.