Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Emotional abuse is not OK
There comes a time in every person's life when he or she has to decide if God means what He says, as recorded in the Bible, or if we can decide for ourselves what God really meant to say when He spoke. Can we believe what the Bible says, or do we get to make it say what we think God probably meant, as it seems right to us?
If you have not yet come to that time in your life, you should now.
So, what do I mean when I say, "Woman is the crowning glory of all God's creation"? I mean exactly what God has said, as recorded in the following verse:
"For a man ... is the image and glory of God; but the woman
is the glory of man." ( I Corinthians 11:7)
God created woman from Adam, from life. Everything else He created including Adam was out of dirt, water, and other ingredients. He created life out of nothing. Yet Eve, was special, she was created out of Adam and then given to him as the crowning glory. Therefore God expects women to be respected and honored, cherished and loved by men. Which in turn deserves honor, respect, and love from the woman. Women have greater capabilities to love and nurture, which is why only women can become mothers. Why doesn't God mention our Heavenly Mother anywhere in the scriptures? Surely not because she doesn't exist, But because He knew in man's immaturity that he would blasmn and crucify Gods name, and he couldn't bare that to happen to her. She is cherished and protected.
Now, that being said: I want people to read this and honestly ask themselves "Am I being emotionally abused or am I being abusive to others, to my partner?
An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don't have time to think about what's right and what's wrong in their behavior. Since I am a woman who has been a victim of emotional abuse will tend to assume the man is the abuser in relationships. However, I do acknowledge that there are women who become emotional abusers as well. In fact in many cases men who grow up to be emotional abusers to their partners were usually victims of emotional and/or physical abuse by their mothers.
Take a moment to consider these questions. Your partner might have behaved as though these things were okay, even though it's obvious that they aren't okay...:
Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you?
Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?
Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself?
Does your partner isolate you from friends, family or groups?
Does your partner limit your access to work, money or material resources?
Has your partner ever stolen from you? Or run up debts for you to handle?
Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?
Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it?
Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?
Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets?
Are you afraid of your partner?
One aspect of emotional abuse is that it eventually brainwashes the victim.
Abusers usually are very selfish and self centered. They brainwash others into being control ed to serve as properties owned by the abuser.
THE PROCESS OF BRAINWASHING
(MIND CONTROL)
1. The brain washer keeps the victim unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place.
Your partner might control your finances, make plans for you, or not tell you what his plans are until the last minute. He may talk about you to others behind your back, to isolate you from them.
2. The brain washer controls the victim's time and physical environment, and works to suppress much of the victim's old behavior. The victim is slowly, or abruptly, isolated from all supportive persons except the brain washer.
Your partner might have insisted that you stop certain social, hobby, or work activities. You might have gotten moved to a new location, farther away from your family and friends. Or you may have been asked (or told) to reduce or stop contact with specific supportive people in your life.
3. The brain washer creates in the victim a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency.
Verbal and emotional abuse creates these emotions, and they become stronger and stronger over time.
4. The brain washer works to instill new behavior and attitudes in the victim.
Your partner trains to you behave in ways that he wants you to behave. He gradually makes you feel differently about yourself, and erodes your confidence in yourself.
5. The brain washer puts forth a closed system of logic, and allows no real input or criticism.
In other words -- What he says, goes.
COMMON CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSERS
(adapted)
* He was verbally abused as a child, or witnessed it in his own family.
* He has an explosive temper, triggered by minor frustrations and arguments.
* Abusers are extremely possessive and jealous. They experience an intense desire to control their mates.
* His sense of masculinity depends on the woman's dependency upon him. He feels like a man only if his partner is totally submissive and dependent on him.
* Abusers often have superficial relationships with other people. Their primary, if not exclusive, relationship is with their wife/girlfriend.
* He has low self-esteem.
* He has rigid expectations of marriage (or partnership) and will not compromise. He expects her to behave according to his expectations of what a wife should be like; often the way his parents' marriage was, or its opposite. He demands that she change to accommodate his expectations.
* He has a great capacity for self-deception. He projects the blame for his relationship difficulties onto his partner. He would not be drunk if she didn't nag him so much. He wouldn't get angry if only she would do what she's supposed to do. He denies the need for counseling because there's nothing wrong with him. Or he agrees to get counseling and then avoids it or makes excuses to not follow through. He might not want her to get counseling because, he reasons, she wouldn't have any problems if she only turned to him.
* He may be described as having a dual personality -- he is either charming or exceptionally cruel. He is selfish or generous depending on his mood.
* A major characteristic of abusers is their capacity to deceive others. He can be cool, calm, charming and convincing: a con man.
* The mate is usually a symbol. The abuser doesn't relate to his partner as a person in her own right, but as a symbol of a significant other. This is especially true when he's angry. He assumes that she is thinking, feeling, or acting like that significant other -- often his mother.
EFFECTS
OF LONG-TERM EMOTIONAL & VERBAL ABUSE
ON THE VICTIM
Isolation from others - Low self-esteem - Depression - Emotional problems - Illness - Increased alcohol or drug use - Withdrawal from real life into an Internet alternative reality
addendum:
I've seen variations of the below text on MySpace. It wasn't written specifically about this problem, but it struck me as a fairly accurate description of how impossible it is to interact with an emotional abuser. (Damned if you do, damned if you don't.)
If you argue with him, he says you're stubborn.
If you're quiet, he argues with you anyway.
If you call him, he says you're needy and clingy.
If he calls you, he thinks you should be grateful.
If you don't act like you love him, he'll try to win you over.
If you tell him you love him, he takes advantage of you.
If you dress sexy, he says you're a slut.
If you don't dress nice, he says you look bad.
When you don't sleep with him, he says you don't love him.
If you do sleep with him, he only does it the way he likes it.
If you tell him your problems, he says you're bothering him,
If you don't, he says you don't trust him.
If you try to bring up a problem, he says you're bitching.
If he brings up a problem, he yells.
If you break a promise, you "can't be trusted".
If he breaks it, it's because "he had to".
If you cheat, he wants to punish you by locking you up or beating you.
If he cheats, he expects to be given another chance.
The 7 mistakes victims make:
1) Turning a blind eye to his first unacceptable temper tantrums. You say that you do that because you love him. He interprets your acceptance as collusion. In his eyes, you have given him clear proof that you area doormat.
2) Trying over and over again to make the abusive relationship work. When an abusive partner has told you, either in words or actions, 3, or 4, or 5 times, that he does not value you or the relationship, you have to believe it. He is offering you his mission statement. Time to head for the hills.
3) Making excuses for him. Why would feel obliged to improve his behaviour when you are willing to excuse him? Your excuses give him carte blanche to carry on behaving as badly, or worse, than he has done in the past.
4) Feeling responsible for him. The time comes when you say; "I've had enough. It's over." He's foreseen that day, and he's ready. He turns on the crocodile tears. He tells you that he can't live without you. It's taken this for him to discover how much he loves you. From now on, he will be a good boy. But he does need you to help him. You agree, and he's back on track. Once again, he has got you to carry him. Will he change? No.
5) Minimizing. He behaves like a heel, and you know it. But you tell yourself: "He had a difficult childhood." "He's had a hard time at work - or being out of work." "It's just the drink talking." Bad behaviour is still bad behaviour. He has no right to dump on you - until you let him.
6) Covering up. Your relationship is ghastly. But you don't want the world to know. So you put on a brave face. That's collusion. Once again, you are giving him permission to behave as badly as he wants. Because it will all stay behind closed doors. In fact, while you are playing Loyal Little Woman, he can be out spreading poison about you. If you change your tune, who do you think will be believed?
7) Believing in fairy tales. Of course, you don't consciously believe in fairy tales: you are a grown woman not a little girl, after all. But, unconsciously, you're still stuck acting out Beauty and the Beast. I don't know whether you met the Handsome Prince, or the Beast, first off. I do know who you are living with. Every last petal has dropped off that rose, the only time the crockery and cutlery dance is when he gets angry, and the Beast is still a Beast. That's all he will ever be. Time to get real. And, if some other naïve woman, wants to play Beauty and the Beast with him, good luck to her. Reality is not like fairy tales. One key difference to bear in mind: in the real world, when you first get together with someone, they are on their best behaviour, they wear their most attractive mask. With abusers it is all one way from there: downhill. The behaviour degenerates, the mask drops, the result is a whole load of misery for you. Period.
The real mistakes that women make in abusive relationships have nothing to do with faults or inadequacies. They are all about being too willing to carry on believing the best of someone who is trying very hard to show you just what a jerk he is. Abusive men don't give you too many gifts. Showing you just how unpleasant and callous they can be is the best gift you can have in a lousy situation. Accept it graciously, before your abusive partner keeps slamming it into your face. And move on.
One thing they never tell you in fairy stories is that the beautiful maiden doesn't actually need a man to be happy. She just thinks she does. But when she learns to be truly happy by herself, and for herself, she will attract a much better class of man than a Beast/Prince.
An emotional abuser will seem to encourage his partner to grow, to develop new skills and expand her horizons, but then will do things to impede or prevent that progress. He will mope and sigh about how little time she has for him now that she is working more or taking that course, or back in school. Or, he will "encourage" her to advance herself, but refuse to provide any additional assistance around the house/family to ease her workload, effectively making it impossible for her to take that course or job. If he DOES provide assistance, he will let her know how HARD it is for him, and how MUCH he is doing for her, every step of the way... he will play the "sad puppy" to the hilt, trying to get her to feel guilty for the burdens she has put on him.
An Emotional abuser will try to make his partner responsible for his happiness. Either through direct comments, or indirect implications, the abuser will let his partner know that he is not happy, that it is somehow her fault, and that she must fix it. The problem is, no matter what she does, it will never be enough, and it won't ultimately make him happy.
The abuser may take this behavior to an extreme, insisting that he is the best partner or relationship she will ever have, the only one who can truly love her (despite all her faults!), and that if she doesn't live up to his expectations, he will leave the relationship. Since abuse is really about control, the abuser knows he can have the upper hand in the relationship if he can keep her uncertain and insecure.
Emotional abusers overcompensate for their self-hate with a warped kind of narcissism. They genuinely believe that YOU SHOULD know how they feel, and know what to do to make them happy. AND that you should be willing to do those things without having to be asked or told. They believe that they DESERVE to be treated better, to be put first, to be given preferential treatment. He will expect you to read his mind. He lives by the "if you really loved me, you'd KNOW how I feel" game, and of course will punish you for not being telepathic. If confronted with the unreasonable nature of this behavior, the abuser will blame his partner for his lack of communication - it will always be her fault that he couldn't tell her what he needed or wanted. He will project HIS behavior on her, and insist that he couldn't talk to her about what was bothering him because she was too intense, or critical, or angry, or judgemental, or needy. Don't buy it. Those are HIS issues. Not yours.
And speaking of narcissism, the emotional abuser will be envious and resentful if YOU get more attention than HE does in a social setting. He will likely punish you for it by one of any number of techniques: ignoring you, sulking, disappearing for hours, flirting heavily with someone else, or leaving the party or function without notifying you.
Emotional abusers expect the rest of the household to live by their waking, sleeping and eating schedules. If his schedule is interrupted or disturbed, or if the partner chooses not to follow the same patterns, the abuser feels justified in "punishing" the offender. This can include the full battery of emotional abuse and passive-aggressive tactics - because in the abuser's mind, the partner or household member "deserves" it for not caring enough about him to live by his schedules and activity calendar.
for full artical visit this website:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/emotional_abuse.shtml
If you have not yet come to that time in your life, you should now.
So, what do I mean when I say, "Woman is the crowning glory of all God's creation"? I mean exactly what God has said, as recorded in the following verse:
"For a man ... is the image and glory of God; but the woman
is the glory of man." ( I Corinthians 11:7)
God created woman from Adam, from life. Everything else He created including Adam was out of dirt, water, and other ingredients. He created life out of nothing. Yet Eve, was special, she was created out of Adam and then given to him as the crowning glory. Therefore God expects women to be respected and honored, cherished and loved by men. Which in turn deserves honor, respect, and love from the woman. Women have greater capabilities to love and nurture, which is why only women can become mothers. Why doesn't God mention our Heavenly Mother anywhere in the scriptures? Surely not because she doesn't exist, But because He knew in man's immaturity that he would blasmn and crucify Gods name, and he couldn't bare that to happen to her. She is cherished and protected.
Now, that being said: I want people to read this and honestly ask themselves "Am I being emotionally abused or am I being abusive to others, to my partner?
An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don't have time to think about what's right and what's wrong in their behavior. Since I am a woman who has been a victim of emotional abuse will tend to assume the man is the abuser in relationships. However, I do acknowledge that there are women who become emotional abusers as well. In fact in many cases men who grow up to be emotional abusers to their partners were usually victims of emotional and/or physical abuse by their mothers.
Take a moment to consider these questions. Your partner might have behaved as though these things were okay, even though it's obvious that they aren't okay...:
Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you?
Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?
Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself?
Does your partner isolate you from friends, family or groups?
Does your partner limit your access to work, money or material resources?
Has your partner ever stolen from you? Or run up debts for you to handle?
Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?
Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it?
Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?
Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets?
Are you afraid of your partner?
One aspect of emotional abuse is that it eventually brainwashes the victim.
Abusers usually are very selfish and self centered. They brainwash others into being control ed to serve as properties owned by the abuser.
THE PROCESS OF BRAINWASHING
(MIND CONTROL)
1. The brain washer keeps the victim unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place.
Your partner might control your finances, make plans for you, or not tell you what his plans are until the last minute. He may talk about you to others behind your back, to isolate you from them.
2. The brain washer controls the victim's time and physical environment, and works to suppress much of the victim's old behavior. The victim is slowly, or abruptly, isolated from all supportive persons except the brain washer.
Your partner might have insisted that you stop certain social, hobby, or work activities. You might have gotten moved to a new location, farther away from your family and friends. Or you may have been asked (or told) to reduce or stop contact with specific supportive people in your life.
3. The brain washer creates in the victim a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency.
Verbal and emotional abuse creates these emotions, and they become stronger and stronger over time.
4. The brain washer works to instill new behavior and attitudes in the victim.
Your partner trains to you behave in ways that he wants you to behave. He gradually makes you feel differently about yourself, and erodes your confidence in yourself.
5. The brain washer puts forth a closed system of logic, and allows no real input or criticism.
In other words -- What he says, goes.
COMMON CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSERS
(adapted)
* He was verbally abused as a child, or witnessed it in his own family.
* He has an explosive temper, triggered by minor frustrations and arguments.
* Abusers are extremely possessive and jealous. They experience an intense desire to control their mates.
* His sense of masculinity depends on the woman's dependency upon him. He feels like a man only if his partner is totally submissive and dependent on him.
* Abusers often have superficial relationships with other people. Their primary, if not exclusive, relationship is with their wife/girlfriend.
* He has low self-esteem.
* He has rigid expectations of marriage (or partnership) and will not compromise. He expects her to behave according to his expectations of what a wife should be like; often the way his parents' marriage was, or its opposite. He demands that she change to accommodate his expectations.
* He has a great capacity for self-deception. He projects the blame for his relationship difficulties onto his partner. He would not be drunk if she didn't nag him so much. He wouldn't get angry if only she would do what she's supposed to do. He denies the need for counseling because there's nothing wrong with him. Or he agrees to get counseling and then avoids it or makes excuses to not follow through. He might not want her to get counseling because, he reasons, she wouldn't have any problems if she only turned to him.
* He may be described as having a dual personality -- he is either charming or exceptionally cruel. He is selfish or generous depending on his mood.
* A major characteristic of abusers is their capacity to deceive others. He can be cool, calm, charming and convincing: a con man.
* The mate is usually a symbol. The abuser doesn't relate to his partner as a person in her own right, but as a symbol of a significant other. This is especially true when he's angry. He assumes that she is thinking, feeling, or acting like that significant other -- often his mother.
EFFECTS
OF LONG-TERM EMOTIONAL & VERBAL ABUSE
ON THE VICTIM
Isolation from others - Low self-esteem - Depression - Emotional problems - Illness - Increased alcohol or drug use - Withdrawal from real life into an Internet alternative reality
addendum:
I've seen variations of the below text on MySpace. It wasn't written specifically about this problem, but it struck me as a fairly accurate description of how impossible it is to interact with an emotional abuser. (Damned if you do, damned if you don't.)
If you argue with him, he says you're stubborn.
If you're quiet, he argues with you anyway.
If you call him, he says you're needy and clingy.
If he calls you, he thinks you should be grateful.
If you don't act like you love him, he'll try to win you over.
If you tell him you love him, he takes advantage of you.
If you dress sexy, he says you're a slut.
If you don't dress nice, he says you look bad.
When you don't sleep with him, he says you don't love him.
If you do sleep with him, he only does it the way he likes it.
If you tell him your problems, he says you're bothering him,
If you don't, he says you don't trust him.
If you try to bring up a problem, he says you're bitching.
If he brings up a problem, he yells.
If you break a promise, you "can't be trusted".
If he breaks it, it's because "he had to".
If you cheat, he wants to punish you by locking you up or beating you.
If he cheats, he expects to be given another chance.
The 7 mistakes victims make:
1) Turning a blind eye to his first unacceptable temper tantrums. You say that you do that because you love him. He interprets your acceptance as collusion. In his eyes, you have given him clear proof that you area doormat.
2) Trying over and over again to make the abusive relationship work. When an abusive partner has told you, either in words or actions, 3, or 4, or 5 times, that he does not value you or the relationship, you have to believe it. He is offering you his mission statement. Time to head for the hills.
3) Making excuses for him. Why would feel obliged to improve his behaviour when you are willing to excuse him? Your excuses give him carte blanche to carry on behaving as badly, or worse, than he has done in the past.
4) Feeling responsible for him. The time comes when you say; "I've had enough. It's over." He's foreseen that day, and he's ready. He turns on the crocodile tears. He tells you that he can't live without you. It's taken this for him to discover how much he loves you. From now on, he will be a good boy. But he does need you to help him. You agree, and he's back on track. Once again, he has got you to carry him. Will he change? No.
5) Minimizing. He behaves like a heel, and you know it. But you tell yourself: "He had a difficult childhood." "He's had a hard time at work - or being out of work." "It's just the drink talking." Bad behaviour is still bad behaviour. He has no right to dump on you - until you let him.
6) Covering up. Your relationship is ghastly. But you don't want the world to know. So you put on a brave face. That's collusion. Once again, you are giving him permission to behave as badly as he wants. Because it will all stay behind closed doors. In fact, while you are playing Loyal Little Woman, he can be out spreading poison about you. If you change your tune, who do you think will be believed?
7) Believing in fairy tales. Of course, you don't consciously believe in fairy tales: you are a grown woman not a little girl, after all. But, unconsciously, you're still stuck acting out Beauty and the Beast. I don't know whether you met the Handsome Prince, or the Beast, first off. I do know who you are living with. Every last petal has dropped off that rose, the only time the crockery and cutlery dance is when he gets angry, and the Beast is still a Beast. That's all he will ever be. Time to get real. And, if some other naïve woman, wants to play Beauty and the Beast with him, good luck to her. Reality is not like fairy tales. One key difference to bear in mind: in the real world, when you first get together with someone, they are on their best behaviour, they wear their most attractive mask. With abusers it is all one way from there: downhill. The behaviour degenerates, the mask drops, the result is a whole load of misery for you. Period.
The real mistakes that women make in abusive relationships have nothing to do with faults or inadequacies. They are all about being too willing to carry on believing the best of someone who is trying very hard to show you just what a jerk he is. Abusive men don't give you too many gifts. Showing you just how unpleasant and callous they can be is the best gift you can have in a lousy situation. Accept it graciously, before your abusive partner keeps slamming it into your face. And move on.
One thing they never tell you in fairy stories is that the beautiful maiden doesn't actually need a man to be happy. She just thinks she does. But when she learns to be truly happy by herself, and for herself, she will attract a much better class of man than a Beast/Prince.
An emotional abuser will seem to encourage his partner to grow, to develop new skills and expand her horizons, but then will do things to impede or prevent that progress. He will mope and sigh about how little time she has for him now that she is working more or taking that course, or back in school. Or, he will "encourage" her to advance herself, but refuse to provide any additional assistance around the house/family to ease her workload, effectively making it impossible for her to take that course or job. If he DOES provide assistance, he will let her know how HARD it is for him, and how MUCH he is doing for her, every step of the way... he will play the "sad puppy" to the hilt, trying to get her to feel guilty for the burdens she has put on him.
An Emotional abuser will try to make his partner responsible for his happiness. Either through direct comments, or indirect implications, the abuser will let his partner know that he is not happy, that it is somehow her fault, and that she must fix it. The problem is, no matter what she does, it will never be enough, and it won't ultimately make him happy.
The abuser may take this behavior to an extreme, insisting that he is the best partner or relationship she will ever have, the only one who can truly love her (despite all her faults!), and that if she doesn't live up to his expectations, he will leave the relationship. Since abuse is really about control, the abuser knows he can have the upper hand in the relationship if he can keep her uncertain and insecure.
Emotional abusers overcompensate for their self-hate with a warped kind of narcissism. They genuinely believe that YOU SHOULD know how they feel, and know what to do to make them happy. AND that you should be willing to do those things without having to be asked or told. They believe that they DESERVE to be treated better, to be put first, to be given preferential treatment. He will expect you to read his mind. He lives by the "if you really loved me, you'd KNOW how I feel" game, and of course will punish you for not being telepathic. If confronted with the unreasonable nature of this behavior, the abuser will blame his partner for his lack of communication - it will always be her fault that he couldn't tell her what he needed or wanted. He will project HIS behavior on her, and insist that he couldn't talk to her about what was bothering him because she was too intense, or critical, or angry, or judgemental, or needy. Don't buy it. Those are HIS issues. Not yours.
And speaking of narcissism, the emotional abuser will be envious and resentful if YOU get more attention than HE does in a social setting. He will likely punish you for it by one of any number of techniques: ignoring you, sulking, disappearing for hours, flirting heavily with someone else, or leaving the party or function without notifying you.
Emotional abusers expect the rest of the household to live by their waking, sleeping and eating schedules. If his schedule is interrupted or disturbed, or if the partner chooses not to follow the same patterns, the abuser feels justified in "punishing" the offender. This can include the full battery of emotional abuse and passive-aggressive tactics - because in the abuser's mind, the partner or household member "deserves" it for not caring enough about him to live by his schedules and activity calendar.
for full artical visit this website:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/manipulator/emotional_abuse.shtml
Friday, November 26, 2010
JoJo Memorial
Our Little JoJo
. Not more than 3lb. and full of energ!Born January 25th 2010.
Passed away March 9th 2012
. Not more than 3lb. and full of energ!Born January 25th 2010.Passed away March 9th 2012
Sunday, October 24, 2010
My thoughts on Sister Wives
I think "Sister Wives" is a refreshing look at the positive aspect of this lifestyle. Any publicity in the past about Plygomy has been negative, stained with perversion, and connected to the Mormon Church trying to make the Church look bad.
My belief in the true Gospel of Jesus Christ has not wavered. That being said, I do not condemn others for their choices in life styles. Thats exactly what it is, a lifestyle. Who we chose to love is our choice and no one has the right to judge or punish for it. Even though I do not agree with the kind of lifestyle these people have chosen, I admire the fact that you can see that they are making it work better than most monogamous relationships around. They are not hurting anyone and they are bringing up healthy strong children who will be good citizens. This is why, If the Law presses charges and tries to break up this family, I will be one of the first to raise hell! I will picket and do what ever it take s to fight it. There are a lot of good things that can come from the plural marriage lifestyle. What young mother of little children couldn't benefit from having help from loving sisters who would care for those children as their own? What comfort it would be to be in a big loving, caring family where everyone watches your back? Such security. Where children have a whole team of friends to depend on. I wish the world would embrace the positive aspect of things and quit dwelling on the negative possibilities. This is just my opinion, but it give others something to think about so I express it.
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Christina Maria Fieseler
Christina is my daughter. She is 25 and so very talented! She has been singing since she was 7 years old. I am so very proud of her. Watch and listen to these videos and you will understand why.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Do we really know what we are suffering from?
In today's world it seems there are more names for ailments and diseases than ever before in history. The Medical Society has a set of rules for conditions and diseases they have given names to. Like a point system, if you have more of one thing together with another condition that qualifies it equals a certain condition or disease. This has never seemed very logical to me. So we have Russian Reulet wheel type of conclusions. And just because he or she is the doctor, and you are the patient, you are supposed to take what he says for gospel. Well here is some food for thought based on some research that Bea Lydecker did some years ago. I highly respect this woman's work. What she says makes sense to me plus I have seen her knowledge along with her dietary supplements work miracles in more than one case.
Fibromyalgia/Chronic Fatigue/Epstein Bar, Hepatitis C, Non-Hodgkin's, Lymphoma, MS, HIV.
these I feel are caused from the Simian 40 Virus(read about Simian 40 at (http://www.bealydecker.com/simian40.htm, But given different names by where it attacks the body. Hepatitis C attacks the cells in the liver. Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma attacks the immune cells in the Lymph glands and is technically not a cancer that usually doesn't respond to conventional cancer treatments.
HIV attacks the T Cells that eat cancer, TB, skin eruptions and tumors of any kind. No matter what propaganda tells you, it has never been proven that HIV causes AIDS, but was assumed it did because it is often present in AIDS patients. There are many other factors causing AIDS such as life styles, etc. Many HIV victims don't even get sick or show symptoms because they are able to maintain a high T cell level, so they never get AIDS in Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome. One is considered to have AIDS when their T Cell count drops to a certain level, which it can do even when you have cancer. Fibromyalgia/CFS/Epstein Bar are all the same disease where the virus attacks the muscles. The symptoms of the Fibromyalgia are as follows: the more you exercise the weaker you get, one day you will feel good and energetic and suddenly it is as though someone has taken a syringe and sucked out all your energy and you are so tired you can hardly move. You have almost constant pain in the back of the neck, elbows, outside of the knees and in the tendons going to your heels making you feel you have bone spurs or can't put your heels down on the floor and walk.. Pain and weight gain are your constant companions. It also causes fibrous growths in the blood vessels and for women, growths on your internal organs while men will develop lumps just under the skin. One can be bedridden 23 out of 24 hours a day, This happened to Bea Lydecker,but now she lives a full life, working,writing books, showing dogs and traveling with her husband. With prayer and her own knowledge of herbs and the anatomy she was able to heal herself .Many have gotten well from the system she has developed. It is combination of natural herbs that cleans the liver and the system and then rebuilds the immune system. The only failures she has encountered along the way, has been when people, through psychological reasons, could not seem to let go of the disease or they didn't believe they could get well. The mind plays a great roll in physical health.
The bottom line is that in order to get well you have to kill the virus plus rebuild the immune system. The Simian 40 virus attacks the cells destroying the RNA (outside cell membrane) so slowly that you hardly notice it is happening until it is at a critical stage. This is when no nutrients and oxygen can get into the cell and the cell waste can't get out for the body to eliminate it. By the time this happens, your liver is congested and not functioning up to capacity causing all kinds of symptoms from irritability to appetite irregularities, insomnia,and even chronic constipation. This will all clear up on the program I have developed. It is called The Cleans and Rebuild Program. It consists of 4 steps, taking several products for a period of 6 months... sometimes longer depending on the condition one has. True healing is a life change and it takes time.
Now there is a hemopathical treatment for arthritis... there has been a successful treatment for arthritis on the market, developed by a government researcher named Diehl, for about 50 years, but the AMA had it under patent for 35 years. The patent is now off, so we can get it. It is getting phenomenal results in not just controlling the pain, but getting rid of it so you can function normally again. It is called Cytal-Myrastolate.
I believe that The Lord's herbs along with following a code of health such as the "Word of Wisdom" (Word of Wisdon from LDS Church, Word of Wisdon Diet) like the LDS Church has, will be the means by which man will be able to survive in the future. We cannot just keep putting band aids on our pain.
Fibromyalgia/Chronic Fatigue/Epstein Bar, Hepatitis C, Non-Hodgkin's, Lymphoma, MS, HIV.
these I feel are caused from the Simian 40 Virus(read about Simian 40 at (http://www.bealydecker.com/simian40.htm, But given different names by where it attacks the body. Hepatitis C attacks the cells in the liver. Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma attacks the immune cells in the Lymph glands and is technically not a cancer that usually doesn't respond to conventional cancer treatments.
HIV attacks the T Cells that eat cancer, TB, skin eruptions and tumors of any kind. No matter what propaganda tells you, it has never been proven that HIV causes AIDS, but was assumed it did because it is often present in AIDS patients. There are many other factors causing AIDS such as life styles, etc. Many HIV victims don't even get sick or show symptoms because they are able to maintain a high T cell level, so they never get AIDS in Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome. One is considered to have AIDS when their T Cell count drops to a certain level, which it can do even when you have cancer. Fibromyalgia/CFS/Epstein Bar are all the same disease where the virus attacks the muscles. The symptoms of the Fibromyalgia are as follows: the more you exercise the weaker you get, one day you will feel good and energetic and suddenly it is as though someone has taken a syringe and sucked out all your energy and you are so tired you can hardly move. You have almost constant pain in the back of the neck, elbows, outside of the knees and in the tendons going to your heels making you feel you have bone spurs or can't put your heels down on the floor and walk.. Pain and weight gain are your constant companions. It also causes fibrous growths in the blood vessels and for women, growths on your internal organs while men will develop lumps just under the skin. One can be bedridden 23 out of 24 hours a day, This happened to Bea Lydecker,but now she lives a full life, working,writing books, showing dogs and traveling with her husband. With prayer and her own knowledge of herbs and the anatomy she was able to heal herself .Many have gotten well from the system she has developed. It is combination of natural herbs that cleans the liver and the system and then rebuilds the immune system. The only failures she has encountered along the way, has been when people, through psychological reasons, could not seem to let go of the disease or they didn't believe they could get well. The mind plays a great roll in physical health.
The bottom line is that in order to get well you have to kill the virus plus rebuild the immune system. The Simian 40 virus attacks the cells destroying the RNA (outside cell membrane) so slowly that you hardly notice it is happening until it is at a critical stage. This is when no nutrients and oxygen can get into the cell and the cell waste can't get out for the body to eliminate it. By the time this happens, your liver is congested and not functioning up to capacity causing all kinds of symptoms from irritability to appetite irregularities, insomnia,and even chronic constipation. This will all clear up on the program I have developed. It is called The Cleans and Rebuild Program. It consists of 4 steps, taking several products for a period of 6 months... sometimes longer depending on the condition one has. True healing is a life change and it takes time.
Now there is a hemopathical treatment for arthritis... there has been a successful treatment for arthritis on the market, developed by a government researcher named Diehl, for about 50 years, but the AMA had it under patent for 35 years. The patent is now off, so we can get it. It is getting phenomenal results in not just controlling the pain, but getting rid of it so you can function normally again. It is called Cytal-Myrastolate.
I believe that The Lord's herbs along with following a code of health such as the "Word of Wisdom" (Word of Wisdon from LDS Church, Word of Wisdon Diet) like the LDS Church has, will be the means by which man will be able to survive in the future. We cannot just keep putting band aids on our pain.
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